Socialize as an ambivert and you’ll be able to get many friends in due time. Read on to learn more about how to socialize as an ambivert.
Ambiverts are people who lie in the middle of the personality spectrum. On one end, you have the introverts. They’re the ones who prefer the peacefulness and calmness of isolation. That’s where they draw their energy from.
On the other, you have extroverts. These are your typical partygoers, the ones who have fun doing it. They draw their energy from being surrounded by many people and exciting atmospheres.
Ambiverts are the ones who can walk both streets. Ambiverts can draw energy from quiet moments and exciting moments. They can be both extroverts and introverts based on their mood and different circumstances. Ambiverts have the best of both worlds.
If this is something you can relate to if you feel like an introvert sometimes but not quite, and if you feel like an extrovert on other times, then you may be an ambivert.
To socialize as an ambivert can be easy if you know what you’re doing, or tough if you don’t. You may be able to act like an extrovert sometimes, but you’re not quite as well-versed in socializing as the most outgoing extrovert.
You can use this to your advantage, though, because there are a lot of qualities of introverts that are in your system that you can also use in socializing. All in all, you simply need to know what to do as an ambivert to properly socialize as an ambivert.
With that said, here are a couple of things you need to keep in mind so so you can socialize as an ambivert.
Know When And When Not To Go Out
You’re prone to indecisiveness. You owe this personality to being an ambivert. On some nights, you just want to stay in and relax. With others, you want to go out and party with your friends. You’ll be in the mood for socializing and making friends with people you haven’t met before.
Make sure your need to socialize coincides with your mood. Make sure you want to go out. Wait for your extroverted side to come out before you go out.
When you’re not in the mood to go out, don’t force it and just stay at home. If you get asked out by someone and you don’t want to, make them understand. Take a rain check. If you force yourself to go out if you don’t want to, you’ll just end up hating the night and missing home.
Listen to your intuition. When your mind is telling you not to go out, follow that instinct. Relax for now and make up for it later. This is one of the things you can do as an ambivert. You nourish both of your needs to stay at home and to party out.
Use Your Strengths As An Ambivert
As an ambivert, you have the best of both worlds. Party like an extrovert and interact with people without worry. Have fun doing all of that. You can also be attentive and reserved like an introvert. This is something you can use as you socialize with other people.
Whatever it is you need to do, you have a lot of natural skills in your arsenal that you can use as you socialize as an ambivert. Social skills such as:
1. Your listening skills
Listening to other people is something you can do quite well as an ambivert. You like listening to other people’s stories and ideas, or at least, it’s easy for you to try to do so.
Make sure you take advantage of this and be as attentive as you can when someone is speaking to you. Being a great listener is one of the best ways you can get the attention of other people. If they know you can be invested enough to show interest in their stories, they will pay you the same courtesy.
Your ability to empathize is a very useful thing when it comes to socializing as an ambivert. It may even be something you already do regularly without even thinking about it.
Empathy is your ability to put yourself in the position of others. You’re able to relate to them on a deeper and emotional level. Because of this, you’re able to have better conversations and you can respond to others smoothly.
You can also dish out great pieces of advice when you can empathize with the other person. This makes you a warm and soothing company that others will want in their circle.
3. Being able to tell great and funny stories
Aside from your inclination to listen to others, you also don’t shy away from being able to take the spotlight. You’re comfortable enough being the center of attention every once in a while, most especially when you’re telling stories.
That’s why you should practice your storytelling chops altogether. It’s not enough that you’re just comfortable with it, you also have to be good at it. Here are ways you can make your stories better
- Set up the atmosphere. If your story is sad, make sure everyone knows it. If it’s happy, then all the same. The mood is as important as the story itself.
- Paint a picture. Make sure your listeners can visualize your story. Kind of like making them see a movie in their minds with your words guiding it forward. Describe each scenario, place, and people involved in the story well.
- Build up the ending. When you tell a story to others, especially when you’re trying to socialize, make sure the endings to your stories pack a punch. The best way to do this is to build it up. Don’t just blurt it right out. Make them anticipate it. Build tension and what-not.
- Body language. Move as you tell your story. Don’t just stand there and be still. Act as if you’re excited about the story you’re telling.
Another thing you can also do is to tell funny stories. Everybody loves them. Study standup comedians for this one. You don’t necessarily have to copy their jokes, but you can just take note of how they construct their funny stories. You can take inspiration from them too.
4. Being a warm presence
By knowing when to listen, when to talk, and how to empathize, you’re already on your way to being a warm presence for other people. Just make sure you’re aware of this and utilize it to socialize as an ambivert.
When someone needs guidance and advice, be there and give it to them. If you know someone needs a laugh, tell them a funny or heartwarming story. If someone just wants somebody to talk to, lend a listening ear.
Make sure you’re the kind of guy people can turn to whatever it is they need from a friend. Be that kind of person, and you can be that as an ambivert.
5. Befriending both introverts and extroverts, or even other ambiverts
Because of your affinity to both ends of the personality line, befriending both introverts and extroverts is easy for you. It’s fun, even.
You can spend quiet and peaceful nights with an introvert. You can just stay in, watch a movie, pop open a bottle of wine, have conversations in a quiet environment, etc. Extroverts can also rely on you to go all out with them on an energetic party. If they need someone who can go with their flow, they can easily call you up.
Even more interesting, an introvert friend can ask you to show them what it’s like to party like an extrovert. Or the other way around. The dynamics are varying and exciting and it’s something you can do.
Ask Friends To Introduce People To You
If you want to take it to the next level, just plain out ask your friends to introduce you to people. They’ll be more than happy to oblige if you ask them nicely.
Make sure the people you get introduced to are people you can get along with. People who share one or a couple of interests with you. That will make it seem like it makes sense that you two are introduced to each other.
The beauty of this is your friends can virtually have almost anyone to introduce you to. Whether they’re an introvert or an extrovert, you can get along with them. As long as you’re able to make a connection with them, anyone can virtually be your friend.
Travel and Make Friends
Traveling is one of the best things we as humans can do. The world is a massive place filled with countless amazing sceneries, people, and culture. You get to experience that by traveling.
Traveling may be one of your most favorite things to do considering you’re an ambivert. You travel out for too long, though, and you start to miss home. This is one of the things you feel that’s tied to your nature as an ambivert. You love traveling but you’ll eventually miss your home.
That’s why when you do travel, you need to make the most of it. One of the best ways to do that is to make friends while traveling.
Befriend locals in whichever place you’re traveling to. That will make your next visit so much better as you’ll already have people in the area you consider friends. They can also be your guide in the city to the most wonderful and lesser-known spots.
You can also opt to befriend people who love traveling. That way, you’ll have a group of travel buddies who share your enthusiasm with this activity.
Join Clubs and Communities
It’s a great thing to join clubs and communities as it will give you a chance to be surrounded by like-minded people. If you have a hobby or a specific interest, you’ll surely find a group or community for it in your area.
Join these clubs and you’ll be able to grow in your craft alongside other people you can be friends with. It’s easier to create a connection this way because you already have something in common with them. It won’t matter anymore if they’re an introvert who prefers staying in or an extrovert who prefers going out. You can already jive with both of that.
Make sure you upgrade your friendship from clubmates to friends outside of that club. Ask them out. Meet outside of your club and open up conversations about anything that’s outside your club. Get to know one another, make them feel comfortable with you, and be comfortable with them.
Host Your Own Parties
You can also go ahead and host your own party. Once you’re at the point where you know a few people already, this is what you can do.
It’s also great because you can encourage the friends you’re inviting to invite their other friends too. The more attendees, the better. As the host of the party, they will feel inclined to go up to you and introduce themselves to you. You can make more friends this way and more and more people will get to know you.
It will also give others the impression that you’re keen on meeting new people if you host your party and encourage others to bring other people. This is the kind of image you want to portray if you’re to socialize as an ambivert.
Socialize As An Ambivert
Being an ambivert can be a very beautiful thing. As mentioned, you virtually have the best of both worlds. You can behave and be chill like an introvert or be outgoing and energetic in social situations like an extrovert. You can interact and be comfortable with anyone.
So get out there, follow the tips you’ve just read here, and make as many friends as you want. As an ambivert, you’ll have a lot of fun and you’ll get to know a wide array of different people. That’s an exciting notion. Make sure you have fun with it.
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