It’s a tough situation to never get invited to anything. It makes you feel left out, it makes it so much harder for you to make friends, and it can turn you off from socializing completely. As terrible as this situation is, there are a lot of things you can do to ensure you get invited to events and hangouts next time.
Not all of this is your fault, of course. There are a lot of external factors that come into play here as well. However, there are things that are out of your control and there are things you can actually change. That’s what you should focus on.
Why You Never Get Invited To Anything
Take a look at some of the most common reasons why some people never get invited to anything. See which of them apply to your case.
They’re not close with the people around them enough
There are a few people who never get invited to anything simply because they are not close enough with the people around them. They often expect to be invited, but since they have no concrete relationship with those around them, they never cross the minds of others when it comes to events and parties.
They’re not fun to be around
As terrible as it may sound, there are just some people who never get invited to anything because they’re unfun to be around. They may have been invited in the past, but they somehow suck the life and the fun out of the room. They either take everything too seriously, get offended by every single joke, argue with others who don’t share an opinion with them, or something along those lines.
This is irritating at best and harmful at worst, which is why those around them then decided to never invite them to parties ever again.
They’re very pessimistic
Similar to the previous point, there are those who are never invited to parties simply because they are too pessimistic about everything. This can make the moods of the other people around them plummet as well. Most people go to parties to have fun and socialize. Pessimistic people often destroy that fun.
They flake on plans
Those who flake on plans don’t get invited to anything anymore for obvious reasons. They used to get invited to things, but they always cancel at the last minute.
They have nothing in common with others
Finally, some people don’t get invited to anything because they have nothing in common with those around them. They are surrounded by people who think they shouldn’t invite them because they wouldn’t have fun together anyway.
Things You Can Do If You Never Get Invited To Anything
With the reasons out of the way, read on to learn what you can do so you can start being invited to things from here on out.
Be more approachable
If you want to get invited to things such as events, parties, and anything similar, be sure to make an effort to be more approachable. For starters, this will help the people around you be comfortable to actually go up to you and ask you out to events and parties.
More importantly, being approachable helps your atmosphere and overall demeanor be much more appealing. Those around you will begin to feel more comfortable with you. They’ll want to get to know you better. They’ll want to be your friend.
To be approachable, you just have to make sure you’re always portraying open body language. Make sure to smile at others whenever you can. Be mindful of your face muscles. Don’t allow yourself to look grim, sad, or angry. You should also stand confidently.
Finally, you’ll need to dress well and clean up. If you look good, you feel good, and those around you will find you more approachable.
Be more optimistic
Another thing you should start doing from here on out if you want to get invited to things is to be more optimistic. Most people love an optimistic individual. They most especially love it when an optimistic individual is at a party. You need to be that kind of person so that people will invite you to their events.
If this is something you’re not used to doing, you’ll need to start getting used to it from now on. Start seeing the positive things in everything. Look for the silver lining and you’ll eventually see it. Your mood will be all the better for it and those around you will feel that.
Start being friendlier to those around you
This is something very simple you can and should do on a daily basis. Start greeting everybody you meet. A smile and a nod will suffice. You can even take it up a notch by saying things like, “Good morning” or “How are you doing?” to the people in your office or your path to wherever it is you regularly go.
Not only will this help you get invited to things, but you’ll be surprised at how much better you can make other peoples’ days just by being friendly. It’s simple but it makes the world around you a better place.
Be open with who you are
You’ll need to start being comfortable with the idea of opening up. More than that, you need to accept and love everything about yourself. Start talking about yourself more in public. Let others know who you are, what your interests are, which things tick you off, and so on and so forth.
This isn’t to mean you should start being self-centered and have every conversation become about you. What this means is that you’ll need to start being open with the idea of talking about yourself to others. This will allow others to get a glimpse of who you are as a person. It will also help you find like-minded individuals. This will then eventually lead a lot of people to want to get to know more about you. You’ll then cross their minds the next time a party or an event comes up.
Don’t flake on plans
One way to never get invited to anything is to flake on plans. If you’re the kind of person who backs out at the last minute, people will never want to invite you to things. No one likes a flaky individual.
That said, if you do get invited to things, be sure to commit. Don’t flake on plans. Keep this tip in mind and it will help you out greatly moving forward.
Be the initiator
Here’s a neat trick: Start the events yourself. Be the initiator. Plan your own event and invite people to your party. Give others a good time. Make sure you can manage to interact with everybody at the party. The people you’ll invite, granted you give them a good time, will be so grateful to you and they’ll think of you the next time there’s another event.
You can do this once or twice. Hosting parties can be exhausting and you might end up burning yourself out if you do it too much. Do it as soon as you can, but don’t overdo it.
It’s also good for you to do this after you’ve done everything above. Once you’ve made a good enough impression on the people around you by being friendly, approachable, and more, then invite them to your own event.
Never show up uninvited
It is very frustrating to never get invited to anything. Despite this, you should never ever show up to events and parties uninvited. Your unexpected arrival will only serve to make things awkward and you’ll just dampen that fun that’s being had. On top of that, this will immensely ruin your chances of getting invited to parties in the future.
Just be patient. Keep working on yourself right now. Show people that you’re the type of person who should be invited to events. As long as you do everything that’s advised here, trust that you’ll eventually get invited to things. For now, completely avoid any temptation to show up at parties uninvited.
Seek out events
If you’re finding it hard to get invited to events but want to see what it’s like to prepare you for the future, seek out public events that you can attend. Go online and look up any upcoming events, parties, or any other form of gathering and go attend it. See what it’s like when crowds of people gather in one place to socialize and have fun. Besides, this is a really great way to meet people and exercise your social skills.
Get used to being around large crowds
The next thing you need to do is to get used to being around large crowds. If you want to get invited to things and once that finally happens, you’ll be surrounded by a large group of people. There will be no use in working your best to finally get invited to events only for you to not enjoy the events themselves.
That said, take note of the earlier point. Seek out events and get used to being around large crowds. You should also begin managing your expectations. Know that you will probably need to interact with a large number of people. You’ll need to have enough energy and social skills to interact with the people you can go up to and those who will go up to you.
Be surrounded by like-minded people
It will be way easier for you to get invited to things if you surround yourself with like-minded people. If your environment is filled with people who share your interests and disinterests of any kind, it will be easier for you to establish a connection with them. It will be easier for you to befriend them. Once you’ve made a connection with others, getting invited to things will follow.
You can do this by joining clubs that are centered around one of your interests. This is a fun and easy way of meeting like-minded people. You can also make this happen by simply talking about your interests more often. You’ll have a higher chance of attracting like-minded individuals by simply talking about your interests.
Another thing you can do is to find a common ground with the people you interact with. Find a single thing that the two of you can relate to and let that be the initial hook. Once you’re able to do this with enough people, you’ll then get invited to parties in no time.
Be better at speaking and listening
Master the art of conversation by being better at speaking and listening. This will highly increase your chances of getting invited to things in the future. Having meaningful and proper conversations is a great way of connecting with others. If you’re able to connect with others, those people will definitely invite you the next time there’s a party.
Being good at conversations is easier said than done, of course. There are a lot of avenues you will need to consider. To cover this as extensively as possible, be sure to check out the other articles we have on social skills that are centered around conversations.
Be better at socializing
Finally, the best thing you can do for yourself if you never get invited to anything is to become better at socializing. Improve your social skills and you’ll be able to interact with other people way more easily. You’ll also make friends much more effectively. You’ll be able to do everything a socially adept person can do. Getting invited to anything will immediately follow.
That said, study up and commit. This process takes a lot more than just reading a few articles, it will also require you to actually commit to this. It will take a lot of time and effort but it will be highly worth it.
To never get invited to anything is something a lot of people go through. Thankfully, you won’t have to go through this anymore. Just be sure to take the time to understand everything you’ve read here and take even more time studying the other articles on this site. Have fun and good luck. All of this effort will be worth it in the end.