People are Bored. The more you get that, the more you’ll understand why people do what they do. It’s been said that 8 out of 10 people are so used to living a boring life, that they don’t know if there’s any other way to live.

If you come across as a dull or un-interesting conversationalist, they will ignore you. To
them, you’ll be like a sheep in a sheep farm, they can’t focus their attention on you.

But,… If you come across as someone interesting, they will be stopped in their boring ride and get fixated on you. To them, you will be like a light in a dangerously dark street… or like a ball of water in the desert… or like a diamond in the rough. You get the idea.

How to be interesting

To be interesting, there are some things you do in the long run and things you can do starting today.

How to be interesting in the long term

If you want to become an interesting person in the long run, here are some things you can do:

  • Go to new places and share what you discover with the people you meet.
  • Do Something New : Dance. Start a blog. Go to burning man. Take a vacation. Support a cause. Do Yoga. Anything new counts… then go and talk about it to your new friends. If you’re short on ideas, read this article.
  • Follow your lead. Having goals is at the essence of manliness.
  • Be interested in why people do what they do, how they feel and how emotions work.
  • Watch interesting movies and tv shows and read interesting books.
  • Be bold. Grow a pair of Balls.  Go for what you want. Make mistakes. Correct course and do it again. In the long run, people will respect you at first glance.

What to Do in your Next Conversations

Calibration works!

Each person has preferences on what to talk about. If you know who you’re talking to, it’s way easier to pick subjects that interest that person.

In order to quickly know who you’re talking to, ask these kinds of questions :
What do you do in life? Do you like it a lot or do you just happen to do it? Does that leave you some for fun? Where do you go out to have fun?

If You Have No Opinion, Why Are We Talking?

If you don’t share your opinion on what the other person is saying, not only do you come across as boring, but you also insult them by implying that they’re boring too.

If you don’t share your opinion on what the other person is saying, not only do you come across as boring, but you also insult them by implying that they’re boring too.

Next time, share what you think about their profession, their neighborhood, the places they went to and what they do for fun.

If you have no idea what to say, use phrases like : “I’ve never heard of that!”, “Oh, I never went there, is that a good place?”, “That’s interesting, how long have you been doing it?”, “That’s an interesting thing to do, I don’t know if everyone can learn it quickly”.

Subject-Linking = Magic.

If you can do this, you’ll never run out of things to say.

It’s been the most reliable tool I used to Always have things to say. When someone says something, there are hundreds of subjects that are in relation to that idea.

Here’s an example of how it works :
Someone says “I went to a new bar in San Diego called “The League”.
Here are things you can say that are linked to that…

Notice that each of the new red words can be a link to a new subject.

Get off the stage, buddy. 

Chances are, you’re not Michael Jordan. And even if you are, you still have your weaknesses. Don’t go bragging about your strengths and qualities. The right thing to do is to talk about your accomplishments later on. Other than that, people will open up to you more if you mention one of your weaknesses and quirks. It makes you appear more human and trustworthy.

Talk about this. Don’t talk about that.

Talk about Sex, relationships, Trips, Hobbies, New places you would like to visit, interesting Movies, Tv shows or books, Fun things to do, unusual artists like Snoop Dogg, Motely Crue or make fun of Celine Dion . Don’t talk about your job (well, not too much), your debt, your weight, your parents, insurance and sad facts.

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