Paul Sanders

Paul Sanders is an author, coach, and founder of GetTheFriendsYouWant.com. He's been writing and coaching on loneliness, shyness, social skills, conversation, friendship, and social life since 2011. He helped thousands of people change their social lives.
Is There A Good Side To Loneliness? Can Feeling Lonely Be A Good Thing?

Is There A Good Side To Loneliness? Can Feeling Lonely Be A Good Thing?

Could there be a Good Side to the Feeling of Loneliness? Is there a biological “reason” why we feel pain when we’re not connecting with people?
Well, according to recent...

Why Would You Learn To Make Friends?

Why Would You Learn To Make Friends?

Even the popular guys are in trouble. I hear story after story of people who had a wonderful social life… until they left college, or until they moved to a...

Why Friends Don’t Call and What To Do About It

Why Friends Don’t Call and What To Do About It

It boils down to a simple choice : whether you are Individual-Focused, or Group-Focused.
This is what I call having “Group Edge”. Basically, you should build or join cliques or...

[Infographic] 3 Steps to Make a New Friendship Stick

[Infographic] 3 Steps to Make a New Friendship Stick

When you’re good friends with someone, you don’t have to think about what you’re getting from vs. what you’re contributing to the other person. But, when you want to form...

[Story] Very Disappointing Friends… You’ll Meet Them

[Story] Very Disappointing Friends… You’ll Meet Them

I wanna share with you a story that happened to me recently. I was at a friend’s house. I knew him from around two years.
He lived in a different...

Friendships that Won’t Let You Fail in Life

Friendships that Won’t Let You Fail in Life

I first came across this concept by reading a great book by Keith Ferrazzi, “Who’s Got your back”. Keith calls them “life-line relationships”.
It’s the type of relationship you have...

What To Give and What To Get From A New Friend

What To Give and What To Get From A New Friend

One great way to know if a friendship is going in the right direction is to notice how much energy each person is investing.

Energy can mean how much each one...

How To Never Have A Boring Conversation Again? (Without Faking Anything)

How To Never Have A Boring Conversation Again? (Without Faking Anything)

If you come across as someone interesting, people will be stopped in their boring ride and get fixated on you. In order to be interesting, there are some things you...

Where To Meet New Friends : 25 Places And Ideas

Where To Meet New Friends : 25 Places And Ideas

To get the most out of this article, pick just five ideas that you’re most excited about. Try them for three weeks and see what worked for you the most....

How To Make Friends : A Critical Step That Makes A HUGE Difference In Your Social Life

How To Make Friends : A Critical Step That Makes A HUGE Difference In Your Social Life

Most guys take too long to work up the courage and admit to themselves that they need more friends. They have that BIG fear of admitting it to anyone, so...