Paul Sanders

Paul Sanders is an author, coach, and founder of GetTheFriendsYouWant.com. He's been writing and coaching on loneliness, shyness, social skills, conversation, friendship, and social life since 2011. He helped thousands of people change their social lives.
“I Need A Friend” Moment: What To Do About It

“I Need A Friend” Moment: What To Do About It

When you start thinking “I need a friend,” it’s an important moment in your social life. It’s a sign that you don’t have a friend that you can talk to...

How To Start A Conversation To Make Friends (6 Steps)

How To Start A Conversation To Make Friends (6 Steps)

This article helps you on how to start a conversation and make friends when you meet new people. It will help you break the ice, carry a conversation, and get...

Podcast: Make Awesome Friends

Podcast: Make Awesome Friends

In part 2 of my podcast discussion with Rachel Rofé, we talked about how to make friends with people you just met. We focused on how you can turn a...

Podcast: Start Conversations And Get Good At Small Talk

Podcast: Start Conversations And Get Good At Small Talk

In an episode of Rachel Rofé‘s podcast, we discussed various aspects of making conversation. We focused on the first time you meet someone, and why it’s important to get good...

Social Skills Training For Adults

Social Skills Training For Adults

What would you consider a great social skills training for adults? In this article, I share my vision as I was making the advanced social skills training.

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Does Individualism Make You Lonely?

Does Individualism Make You Lonely?

As a society, I think we cherish individualism and heroism too much; and it’s making us lonely. As I say in my book, it’s in our culture.

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How To Make Friends As An Adult (or After College)

How To Make Friends As An Adult (or After College)

When young, we had the time to socialize. As an adult, you need to leverage the little time you have to build a social life and make friends as an...

Make It Easy For Others To Be Friends With You, It Sure Helps

Make It Easy For Others To Be Friends With You, It Sure Helps

Last week, I went on a 4-day trip with a few friends. We visited two cities and drove quite a bit. I happen to like organizing trips and preparing fun...

If you think you’re weird… well, that’s great!

If you think you’re weird… well, that’s great!

Today, I wanted to share with you what I think is a problem for many people. They worry that they seem too different from others, and thus not get accepted...

How To Make Friends In A New City

How To Make Friends In A New City

If you want to make friends in a new city, don’t expect it to be easy and perfect. Instead, expect it to be a learning experience, and get curious about...