Hello, this is Paul Sanders,
I want to share with you what I think on How to turn a Stranger into a Friend… by talking!
I don’t know exactly where you are in your social life, but I do know that you need more friends. Who doesn’t?
And, if you are like me, you didn’t have an easy time getting from “stranger” status to “friend” status with someone new. I personally had NO IDEA what it took to make that transition. So I went through a lot of reading, experimenting, imitating socially successful people, and so on. It took me years.
Then… things changed. I started to hang out with more and more cool people who I actually found interesting! Can you believe that?! I thought I would never be interested in people… I was dead wrong.
I started taking notes on my personal journal. I wrote what worked and what didn’t. I wrote every technique and “strategy” to meet and make friends with people.
And now that information is public. It’s in my book “Get The Friends You Want.”
If you want to give yourself a gift, then the best gift is a great, fulfilling social life.
Friends will make you much happier than you are now. It’s guaranteed. It’s been the case for as long as humans lived on this earth.
People who are depressed and unhappy about their lives are ALWAYS those who hang out with NO ONE, or… hang out with people they don’t like.
Don’t let that happen to you. You deserve a better situation. Learn from my mistakes. Read my eBook. Or at least try it for 60 days with NO RISK on your part.
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Now, have you ever been in this situation?
You meet a new person, you would like to make friends with them, you KNOW that you would make a great friend for them, and yet, you find that you can’t really talk to them and express yourself freely.
If you’ve been in this kind of situation, then there’s something important I’m sure you’ve already learned: When you meet new people, the most attractive sides of you tend to disappear and you run out of things to say.
As much as this seems to be completely weird, unexplainable, and unfair,… it’s not.
Let me show you what’s going on here when it comes to meeting and connecting with new people to save you a lot of time, headache, and frustration.
Your brain doesn’t “shut down” all the good sides of your personality, neither does it make you forget all the things you can talk about – although it sure seems that way to a lot of people who can’t make friends.
How Improvising Ruins Your Chances of Making New Friends
The truth is, when meeting new friends, most people don’t take the time to learn how it’s done. They try to “improvise” and expect to have more friends in their life, even if they lack the experience that it takes. They need some preparation, before going out and meeting people.
Now, this might sound very different from what you’ve heard.
Most people will tell you that preparing to meet friends is not necessary. They say that you should be spontaneous and just “be yourself”.
I understand, I heard that all my life.
But if you don’t know how to be spontaneous AND do the right things, then you’ll end up having a lot of great people walk right out of your life, because the first conversations don’t work well.
But, there are ways to turn this around…
Unless you want to keep having dull conversations with people who could become great friends in your life, you’re going to have to forget about improvising your conversations with people you just met.
And you’re going to have to start talking about the right things in the right way, to create connections with potential friends, faster (as difficult and complicated as that sounds – it’s not).
One thing that can help you turn a stranger into a friend, is to talk about three things: What each one of you does every day, what each one of you does for fun, and how they are connected. If you make sure you’ve talked about these things (among others), and especially talk about what connects you, then it’s easy to get in touch with people and turn them into friends.
This is a subtle, but incredibly valuable skill to master if you want to be able to talk to anyone and make friends with them.
Think about how your life would be if you had more of those friends who you can really let go and have a lot of fun experiences with: evenings, get-togethers, parties, travels, and birthday parties. And those are also the ones who will make your life better by supporting you in making your goals happen.
Looking Beneath The Surface of Conversations
Most people think that if they figure out a way to say “cool things” when they meet new people, and behave in a way that will make them seem interesting, then people will simply make an effort to be friends with them.
But the truth is that if you don’t know what’s going on beneath the surface – inside the dynamics of how conversation and making friends work – then you’re not going to understand what makes a simple conversation translates into real good friendships.
There’s a deeper level of understanding you need to have about conversation.
If you feel that what’s wrong in your social life is a result of not understanding how great conversations work and how great friendships are created, then you need to read my eBook “Get The Friends You Want” and discover the gap of knowledge that is between you and the friends and fun social life you desire.
And if you have even a vague feeling that the problem in your social life has something to do with how you’ve been making conversations in the past, my eBook will help you take control of this so you stop having the same mistakes which prevent people from wanting to be friends with you.
Why would people quickly judge that you’re not a good potential friend? Because of THEIR INSTINCTS. Because their instincts tell them not to consider you as a friend, based on the things you talk about and how you behave when you meet them for the first time.
To learn what makes people want to be friends with some people, while completely ignoring others, download and read a copy of my eBook.
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Try it risk free for 60 days, and learn how to be the person that doesn’t get rejected by potential friends.
– Paul Sanders
Author, Get The Friends You Want