In this article, I want to share with you 3 powerful tips on how to make friends as an adult. But if you’re so eager to get rid of loneliness, shyness or hesitation, and make friends, that you want to get the advanced skills as soon as possible, then I recommend that you invest in my eBook, Get The Friends You Want.
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Why is it hard to make friends as an adult, if it was so easy as a kid? Here is how I see it…
As soon as you’re done with your college education, and start to join “the adult world”, you get in a cycle between home and work. In that cycle, it isn’t easy to find time to socialize.
Every day, you feel so exhausted after work that all you can think of is rest, rest, and rest. It even goes on to the weekend; you just want to relax and forget the pressure of work.
You also get bored that way, and start to wonder if people will want to hang out with you, when you have a life that isn’t particularly “fun”… you start to see people who seem like they’re having fun and being social as a different “kind” of people.
Not to worry, I’ve been there. And I think that, equipped with the right tools, you can stop that boring cycle and get to have the friends and the fun you want.
Read on to discover 3 powerful tips that can help you make friends as an adult, starting now.
Tip #1 – The “Join The Team” Technique
Going out to make friends requires a lot of motivation and willpower. But there is a way which allows you to make friends with almost no effort or motivation. That way is what I call the “Join The Team” technique. Here is how you can use it…
I often advise my readers to join a club or interest group with people who share their interests. That works very well. It will get you new friends if you apply it.
But if you want it to work 10 times faster and easier, then join the organizing team of that group or community.
When you’re part of the team that runs the events of an interest group, making friends becomes very easy for you. Everyone in the team is grateful for your contribution, and the regular members naturally come to meet you and get to know you.
This is very easy to do. When you go to an event, go to the organizing team and tell them that you like what they’re doing, and that you’re ready to help out if they’re looking for some more help.
And… everyone needs help organizing their events. That’s why it’s easy.
Tip #2 – Expats, Expats, Expats
If you have trouble making new friends, then I’m about to tell you that there is a group of people who is interesting to be around, open minded, and is interested in getting to know you.
These of course, are expats (or “transplants”). You can find them in many expat networks like Expatblog or Interenations. If you’re in a big city, like San Francisco, google “San Francisco transplants.”
Here is why…
Expats are interesting because right as they come to your city, they get interested in knowing the history, the habits, and the people. They come with “fresh eyes” and see things in a different way. Most expats make of great conversationalists, simply because there is a ton to say, just by comparing the place they came from to yours.
They’re open minded about the city, because they know it’s going to be different from theirs… but they’re also going to be open minded about you, and everyone they meet. This is why it’s easy to express yourself and be who you want to be, around an expat.
AND they’re pretty eager to meet people in the new city, where they don’t know anyone interesting. That’s where you come in!
Tip #3 – Partner Up
Wanting to make friends feels like a lonely battle isn’t it? Well, it doesn’t have to be!
Instead of trying to meet and make friends alone, partner up with an already existing close friend. You can even do that with your lover or spouse. It feels much easier to go out and meet people, when you can do it with somebody else who has the same goal.
I know that this doesn’t make sense if you have absolutely no friends. But it’s very important to keep in mind. But once you do make a friend, partner up to make more new friends.
First, you need to ask yourself “would this friend/lover want to go out more often in order to make friends?”. Your instinct will tell you.
Then, as you talk about everyday life, just mention it like this: “I would love to meet new friends these days, I’ve been so busy lately that I couldn’t find the time to meet anyone.” And see what happens. If their eyes open wider and they seem interested, then just start inviting them to go out with you. You usually don’t need to be direct about if you don’t want to.
Even More Tips…
If you want to get more tips that will help you meet people and make new friends, then get yourself a copy of my Get The Friends You Want eBook, right now.
In it, I’ll be sharing with you Advanced Strategies and Techniques that will help you find new interesting people, know how to talk to them, how to stay in touch, how to turn them into friends, and how to build a circle of friends that you keep for a long time.
See to you there,
– Paul Sanders
Author, Get The Friends You Want