Today I want to talk about something that you can’t guess by yourself unless you’re super smart and you watch how people make friends… like a scientist.
I didn’t guess it, it took me a while to realize and understand, gathering information pieces from pretty much everywhere until it finally clicked in my mind.
So, want to make a friend? Reveal a secret. They will instinctively feel close to you and want to spend more time with you.
Why does it work?
If someone reveals a secret to you, would you betray them? Maybe you won’t, because, he can reveal that and get you embarrassed.
So if you give someone one of your secrets, he or she will think that she can trust you now. You won’t make him or her look bad to other people.
Maybe you’re used to doing this with your long term friends… yeah that’s how much that works… it works after a long while.
Only friends reveal secrets to each other. Maybe you’re used to doing this with your long term friends… yeah that’s how much that works… it works after a long while.
But if you want friends fast, then do it early on !
What secret to reveal? What am I f*cking talking about?
Well, reveal something a lil bit weird about you. For me, it’s clear, I’m into Self Improvement books too much.
If you hop on my car and I turn the key, the radio goes on and you hear Brian Tracy Talking LOL… or David Allen, or Richard Bandler… I always have these CDs playing in my car. Either that or some CD about business or marketing.
And I mention it whenever I want to make someone feel close to me.
So, pick something a bit weird,… but not too weird. Maybe you do something on Sunday that’s a lil out there. Or maybe you’re into Japanese movies or you listen to the music that your parents used to dance to!
Anyway,… reveal something weird,… but not too weird.
How does it work?
Use this with someone you don’t know that well and see how they open up to you more. They’ll start to listen closely to you, their face will relax and they’ll have a more sincere look in their eyes.
That’s when you know you’re talking to a real person and not a mask and you’re about to start becoming close.
Have fun, as always
– Paul Sanders
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